A Christmas Miracle
In October of 2016, Duane and I came to Puerta Vallarta because the newlyweds were blessed to have a baby girl arriving in November and they wanted us to be a part of it. In the couple of weeks before the baby arrived, we went for dinners, had beach days as the excitement was building for the birth of our new granddaughter. I had to pinch myself as my husband and I were staying with our daughter, together as grandparents, just as it’s supposed to be. On November 11th, Madi, our granddaughter was born and oh, the joy, it brought to us all! My husband was very emotional. His baby girl, having her very own baby girl! Duane and I were content to be helping with the driving, grocery shopping, cleaning, laundry and of course rocking the baby. Jodi, my daughter, gave us the name “Team Madi.”
So many amazing things happened in this two month period. Duane treated me so well. As an answer to prayer, there was lots of joy and laughter! One day, a frog was loose in the house and it startled me on the staircase. Duane bought me a ceramic frog to remember the humorous occasion. One of my chores was to sweep the leaves around the pool deck. Duane bought me a long pink handled dustpan and broom. Duane is a master chef on the BBQ. He frequently bought my favorite thin pork chops and one day brought them to me all grilled and slathered in his homemade sauce, saying, “You know, this is a real labor of love.” Our eyes met and I said, “Oh, I know, and THANK YOU!”
In December, my son and his family joined us for Christmas. I know this was an answer to prayer from all my fellow Covenant Keepers. This was our first Christmas in 18 years having all of the family together in one place. What a miracle I was experiencing! We celebrated by having a large dinner with Mario’s family joining us. I choked up many times. God had arranged this after all these years of praying! Christmas Day, Mario took us on his boat to a secluded beach. What a beautiful and miraculous day!
As we stand with Jesus through all our alone years, we work through healing and forgiveness. Now, through all these experiences, God was showing me how He had even kept my true love for my husband alive. For the last two years, I have been reading and studying the books, “Created To Be His Help Meet” by Debi Pearl and “Love and Respect” by Emerson Eggerichs. Now it was time to put these teachings into practice. I did my best, expecting nothing in return, by serving my husband with the love of Christ.
Duane ended up staying over New Years instead of going home on December 29th as he had planned. I was thrilled that now we would celebrate New Year’s Eve with him as well! He even barbecued steaks for all of us on New Year's Eve and at midnight we watched fireworks from the patio that looks out over Puerta Vallarta. We toasted to 2017 and I thanked God for how the year was starting. On January 5th, we took Duane out for dinner before taking him to the airport. We could all feel his sadness. We all believed that he really didn’t want to go home. God did amazing things in his heart through the birth of our granddaughter, family times together, serving together as had in years past, and living the stress-free lifestyle of a place we both love.
When we got back to the house from the airport, I cried when I walked into my room. During Duane’s stay he had insisted on freshly painting my room for me. Seeing the beautiful picture that he had hung over my bed of a young Mexican girl, I realized that I was going to miss him. I had been together with my husband for two whole months! Every day without him has been hard since then, remembering these wonderful times and what God did. But every day, I continue to thank God for His blessings and kindness during this time. I remain confident because He has promised me that He will complete the work in my husband and my marriage that He has begun. The battle is the Lord’s. I did what He asked of me – to walk in love, to serve my husband – now He wants me to turn Duane back over to Him and to trust Him.
When we stand with Jesus, restoration is something we can walk right back into, trusting the Lord. For our prodigals who involve themselves with non-covenants, it’s sometimes a longer process. I am determined to continue to pray him out of that trap. We know it is not too hard for our God! I hope you have been encouraged to keep standing and praying for your spouse. It is a great testimony, not only to our husbands, but also to our children and their marriages. Ephesians 3:20-21 (NIV) says, "Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, (and in our prodigals and our marriages) to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.”
Praise God for restoration and for wonderful family times. I am beginning to never see any miracles and think perhaps God's will is not for me to ever be restored to my husband, He has remarried and moved on. He's into everything dark and has no intentions of ever being with me again. Maybe God has allowed it. Maybe I did disobey God in marrying the wrong person. 20 years with the wrong person.
Stefany, God's will is ALWAYS to restore!!! Don't let the enemy fool you into believing anything else. If you are not in a CK group, I highly recommend that you join one. It's not easy to do this alone. Your CK group will join you in praying that your husband come out of the darkness into the Light. We love you and are praying for you RIGHT NOW!!!!
My husband has also married the NC and I have not heard from him in years (unless he is asking me for something).
I need to hear from God if this is still His will to restore us.
Some sort of a sign to continue
Brenda, the Lord is the same today, tomorrow and forever. If He asked you to stand, He will not change His mind. This is your confirmation!!!! His intention is to always restore. Why would He want anything less. I am praying for you, sister.
Thank you for this encouragement!! My 8 month miracle ended 2 weeks ago as my husband went back to his NC. I was crushed, but I am so thankful for the seeds God planted. He is faithful and He will finish the good work He started. The enemy only wins if we give up.
I agree, Melanie!!!! He WILL continue the work He started. This comment is such an encouragement to me, as well! You are SO SO SO right! The enemy only wins if we give up! I couldn't agree more!!! Deana
Donna, what a blessing and yes I know the Lord will continue to work in Duane as well... He who has begun a good work... was my verse too.... Happy new year to you and may this be the year of restoration for you and for many CKers... Love in Christ, Monika (still waiting)
My wife and I were married in 1978, brought up two children, and separated in 2002 followed by divorce in 2009. The joy of our reconciliation followed 3 months later by remarriage came about after many small but significant steps. One was I needed to learn what absolute love means. Love unconditionally. That means having no conditions. So when I said to my wife, "We can only be reconciled if I hear you say the worlds, 'I love you, Nigel', and if you propose to me. I did my bit 40 years ago." The next morning God said to me, "I love you unconditionally. That is how you need to love your wife. It means having no conditions." As soon as I saw her again, I said, "Those two conditions I put to you two days ago, I want you to know they are off the table now. There are no conditions. You don't have to say 'I love you' and you don't have to propose. You do it your way." That was a turning point. She did do it her way and we were reconciled after 15 years of separation and divorce. The second marriage has been so different and so much more joyful. I thank God every day. And I pray for all covenant keepers so experience the joy of reconciliation and rebirth.
Donna what an amazing testimony! Thank you for your strong faith and sharing it with us. God is not done yet!